How to Use AI Without Everyone Knowing
Because "That sounds like ChatGPT." shouldn't be the most memorable part of anything you publish.
The internet is full of advice on how to make ChatGPT sound more human.
You'll find endless prompt libraries, lists of words to avoid, and tricks for making AI writing less obvious. Some of that advice is genuinely helpful, but I think it's focused on the wrong problem. This conversation goes far beyond blog posts and social media. The same thing is happening to our websites, branding, messaging, and the way we communicate our businesses.
The more I use AI, the more I've realized it has very clear strengths. It's fantastic at organizing ideas, summarizing information, editing rough drafts, brainstorming, and explaining complex topics more clearly.
Where it struggles is the part that makes your content memorable: discernment, lived experience, noticing patterns, understanding people, and saying something genuinely new.
In this post, I'll show you how to use AI as a writing partner instead of a ghostwriter. We'll cover what AI should do, what it should never do, and a few of the prompts that'll make your writing stronger without making it sound like everyone else's.
1.Start with a solid brand identity.
Using AI for your business goes far beyond writing. It's easy to think this is just about blog posts or social media captions, but I don't think it is.
For years, business owners have looked at someone else's success and tried to reverse-engineer it. We copied website layouts, borrowed messaging, recreated offers, and tried to capture the same look and feel as the businesses we admired. AI simply made that process faster.
Now I'm seeing courses that promise to build your entire brand with AI in an afternoon. Your messaging, your website copy, your offers, your emails, your content calendar—all generated in a few prompts. The technology is impressive.
The problem is, good branding takes time and thought. It takes conversations with customers, paying attention to patterns, understanding why people choose you instead of someone else, and figuring out what you actually want to be known for. AI can absolutely help you organize those ideas, but it can't tell you what they are.
The very first step in branding is clarity. Who are you? Who do you serve? What problem do you solve? Why should someone choose you over the business down the street? Those aren't writing questions. They're business questions.
Once you know those answers, AI becomes incredibly helpful. It can polish your words, strengthen your messaging, and help you communicate more clearly. But if you skip the thinking and ask AI to answer those questions for you, you'll end up with a brand that sounds polished without ever becoming memorable.
Everything I’m writing in this entire blog post boils down to one main skill – PAY ATTENTION TO PEOPLE. That’s what you build your brand upon. That’s where you gather content from. That’s where your brand values come from. That’s where you
Pay very close attention to:
what customers ask
where they hesitate
why they buy
what they misunderstand
what they thank you for afterward
the words they use to describe their problem
the reason they recommend you
I’ll go ten toes deep here. Good branding is thoughtful and takes more than a day. Sorry. But you can’t outsource this to a robot if you want to stand out. And on the flip side, the business that do this will won’t be the ones NOT using it. The solution is somewhere in the middle – know your brand and customers well enough to give AI something original to work with.
2. Give AI something only you could write.
Most prompts start with something like, "Write a blog post about..." That's convenient, but it also guarantees your starting point (and topic/point of view) is the same as everyone else's. AI pulls from the information it's been trained on, which means the first draft is usually an average of what's already been written.
Instead, spend ten minutes collecting your own raw material before you ever open ChatGPT. Figure out the point you're trying to make, the opinion you're willing to defend, or the question your customers keep asking. What did a client say this week that made you stop and think? What mistake have you made that you wouldn't want someone else to repeat? What do people in your industry keep saying that you disagree with?
Those ^^ are the things worth handing to AI. Those are the things that AI cannot come up with, and what will set you apart from everyone else who’s using it.
Instead of saying:
👉🏼"Write a blog post about choosing a website designer."
Try something like:
👉🏼"Three clients told me they almost hired the cheapest designer because they thought websites were all basically the same. I want to explain why that's usually the most expensive decision they can make. Here's what I saw happen in each situation..."
👉🏼"I've noticed that almost every client I work with buries the reason someone should choose them halfway down the About page. I think they're doing it because they're trying to sound professional, but it's actually making them forgettable."
👉🏼"Everyone says you need to post more content. I think most businesses don't have a content problem. I think they have a clarity problem. Help me organize these thoughts..."
See the difference?
None of those prompts ask AI to come up with the idea. They already contain the idea. AI's job is simply to help organize, clarify, and strengthen something that already belongs to you.
The businesses that stand out over the next few years won't be the ones with the best prompts. They'll be the ones with the best observations. Anyone can ask ChatGPT to explain a topic. Very few people can explain something they've actually lived, noticed, wrestled with, or changed their mind about.
That's the part readers remember, and it's the part your competitors can't copy.
3. Give AI a job.
Most prompts sound something like, "Write a blog post about..." or "Write an email introducing my new service." That's a lot to ask. You're expecting AI to come up with the idea, organize it, write it, edit it, and somehow make it sound like you—all in one prompt.
Instead, think of AI as another person on your team. You wouldn't ask your graphic designer to answer customer support emails, and you probably wouldn't ask your bookkeeper to redesign your website. Give AI one clear responsibility at a time, and you'll almost always get a better result.
One of my favorite ways to suggest ChatGPT is to use it as an editor instead of a writer. Dump all your thoughts onto the page, then ask it to organize the ideas into a better flow. Point out places where it’s repeating, and notice places where the argument doesn't quite make sense. Those are jobs AI is exceptionally good at because the thinking has already been done.
Here are a few prompts I to get your wheels turning:
Organize these ideas into a logical outline without changing my point.
Tell me where I'm repeating myself or saying the same thing twice.
Read this like my ideal customer. What questions would you still have?
Rewrite this so a 15-year-old could understand it.
Where does this feel confusing or out of order?
Give me five headline ideas based on the point I'm making.
Play devil's advocate. What would someone disagree with?
The goal here is to let AI handle the parts that are slow, repetitive, or difficult so you can spend more time on the parts that only you can do. That's a much better partnership, and in my experience, it produces writing that still sounds like a real person wrote it.
4. Edit for personality.
Write like you talk. Edit like a stranger. Most people think the final step is editing AI to sound less like AI. I don't think that's quite right. The final step is editing until it sounds like you.
Imagine you're sitting across from your favorite client over coffee. Would you actually explain it this way? Would you use these words? Would you tell this story? If not, keep editing. Your readers don't know what prompt you used, but they do know when something feels strangely impersonal.
One exercise I love is reading the entire piece out loud. You'll immediately hear the places where the writing feels stiff, repetitive, or like you're trying too hard to sound smart. Those are usually the sentences that need the most attention.
Here are a few patterns I notice over and over again. Feel free to use copy this list in your prompts as what not to do:
"Not because ___, because ___." ***
"Here's the thing..."
"The truth is..."
"Honestly?" (unless you're literally being honest after hiding something 😂)
"The reality is..."
"It isn't X. It's Y." ***
Three short "punch" sentences in a row. The one-liners. Dead giveaway.
The same point repeated three different ways.
False drama.
Overusing em dashes.
Lines that don’t make sense if you really look close. (please just edit ruthlessly - I’ve seen this everywhere from royals to local reporters.)
Yes, remove the obvious AI patterns, unless some are genuinely how you talk. I, for one, will never stop using em dashes or saying ‘here’s the thing’. I was doing that long before AI showed up, and I’m not changing how I write.
The goal is for people to walk away feeling like you were in their head, reading their thoughts—not immediately think ‘oh this is AI’, dismiss the point and close the laptop.
Putting it all together
AI is one of the best productivity tools we've ever been given, and I don't think it's going anywhere. It can save hours of work, help organize messy ideas, improve clarity, and give more business owners the confidence to finally hit publish. That's a win.
AI is here to stay, and I think that's a good thing. Just don't let the tool become more memorable than your voice.
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